“Be a man and stop being like a little girl.”
What does that even mean?
The majority of men reading this would have heard these words being directed towards them at some point in their life. This is because society has created the obscure ideology that men simply don't have emotions. We say that men shouldn't cry and that men should be mentally stronger than women. But is there any logic in this?
Not only is language like "don't be such a girl" patronising for men, but it's also derogatory towards women. It communicates the message that it is a negative thing to be a woman. This is highlighted in the well-known Always' #LikeAGirl advert.
“I don't cry, I'm a boy" says the 10 year old boy that has been a target of gender stereotypes all of his life without even knowing it.
Masculinity is so fragile.
It baffles me as to why men aren't seen as emotional beings like women. To top this, several studies have concluded that men are actually more emotional than women. So, the only reason why men aren't seen as emotional, has to be because society has taught them (us) to hide those emotions. We are fools for making men feel as though their feelings aren't important and that they should be hidden away.
Gender stereotypes aren't beneficial in this case scenario. Anybody who says that men shouldn't cry doesn't make any sense. I bet you didn't know that men are almost 4 times more likely to commit suicide than women. Those masculine, powerful and robust men chose to hide their tears away in fear that they wouldn't be taken seriously. Can you blame them though?
Are we killing our men? Yeah, maybe.