Inequality within the English language

Is the English language sexist?!?! Not quite, but it doesn’t always support men or women.

It was a few months ago when someone suggested that I wrote about this topic. I was keen to explore and read up about it as I had never really digested it much during day to day life. So let’s get into it.

Essentially, this post is going to be about how the English language may in some ways stimulate the inequality of both men and women in society.

It is clear that the English language is constantly evolving as new words get invented and others die out. However, it is known that the English language was primarily created by men which may have had some effect on the inequalities addressed. Hence words like ‘mankind’ still being used instead of a simple alternatives like ‘humankind’.

I once read that derogatory words used against women like ‘slut’ or ‘hoe’ have no equivalent when it comes down to negatively describing men. Many would argue that you could use words like ‘player’ or ‘man-hoe’. But they’re used too many times in a comical way which defeats their true derogatory meanings. In a perfect world, none of these words would be used at all but we can’t escape the fact that the are; and more importantly, to disrespect women.

Another term which is used a lot is ‘man up’. A phrase that Piers Morgan tends to use a lot to encourage men to get over mental health problems despite it’s damaging effects on men (and women). It sends a message that men have to be strong, tough and ignorant when it comes down to understanding their emotions. Language like this can easily make men feel trapped and forced to fulfil a specific role even when it doesn’t fit for them. Statistics for male suicides are excessive and many professionals state that it is because they are told to ‘man-up’ and be masculine instead of seeking help at times of distress. For women, it infers that they are weaker than men. Women are never told to ‘woman up’ because they don’t carry connotations of being strong.

For both sexes, language in some ways is nonfunctional. Just from these few examples, it is clear that men and women have an ongoing silent battle with the English language. It often devalues them. On the other hand, with new language flourishing, maybe one day these battles will end.

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I’ve been busy.

Apologies for not posting last week. I’ve been busy.

My message for this blog post is that you can do anything if put your mind to it. The post is going to be pretty self-centred so I’d stop reading from here if you’re not a fan of me, myself and I. However, I will also go on to talk about International Men’s Day.

Anyways, over this past two weeks, I’ve passed my driving test, applied to university, began hurdling at training and many other things. Not to be overconfident and annoying, but I’ve done all of this by staying consistent in staying focused and getting things done as and when they need to be done. I’ve set so many goals for myself since the academic year has began and I’m happy to say that so many things are finally coming together.

I would say that all of the things written in this blog post sort of links to my ‘Goals‘ post that I wrote a few weeks ago. I stressed the importance of having goals and gave advice on keeping a healthy mindset about them. I would advise reading it 🙂 (yes, that was me giving myself some self-promo). Being able to say that you’ve achieve a goal is so satisfying no matter how big or small the goal is. Therefore, I wouldn’t see any reason for me to stop setting myself goals.

I also woke up this morning to see that today is International Men’s Day. After seeing a few tweets, many men were taking this day to not only praise and appreciate the good men in this world but also reflect on how men could improve. Especially in this moment in time where feminism is growing and where toxic, hyper–masculinity is being challenged. (A blog topic that I look forward to writing about in the future). I think that some of the top tweets that I have seen are spreading awareness about men’s mental health so if you’re a male reading this, maybe you should join in with the conversation using the hashtag #InternationalMensDay.

That’s all for today’s post. Thanks to everyone reading 🙂

Love, Lifestyle and Love Island

Appearance and physical attraction has arguably become the most important and first thing that people look for when seeking love. Natural beauty and personality is becoming less valuable. More and more people would much rather appear to have a lush lifestyle instead of a ’10/10′ personality.

We use social media sites, dating apps and even watch programmes such as Love Island which all contribute to the pressure of finding someone to fall in love with. However, this “love” that is being drilled into us seems to be based on what people look like. The individuals shown on shows like Love Island all have something in common. Materialism. They all appear to be the type of people that are buying the latest brands for clothes, makeup and gadgets. Is this representation of a perfect lifestyle damaging though?

I admire people who present themselves well. I think that it’s important. However, it’s also important to not fall for someone simply because or their way of living. In ten years time, your lifestyle changes. A lot. Don’t think that because someone you’re attracted to has an iPhone X now, they are going to be seen as trendy in 10 ten years time. Because they won’t, and neither will their iPhone X. If your significant other is caring. Genuinely caring, not to look good in front of others but because they really CARE. That’s ‘attractive’. Or it should be anyway. However, shows like Love Island haven’t really emphasised how important those sorts of qualities in relationships are. In ten years time, if your partner is still caring, then you’re the winner. Logic. Simple logic.

We all know that personality is important. We understand that Love Island is for entertainment purposes and that it’s fake and set up and blah blah blah. The problem is that young people genuinely can’t disconnect the fact that Love Island is a show and not real life. Fourteen year old’s are growing up with the mindset that money can buy you happiness and a partner can make you look fancy. Love Island is just one of the shows that push this ideology and it’s all rooted from capitalism but let’s not get too deep for the sake of Love Island being the lead example.

It just seems weird that these shows are portraying perfection as something that it really isn’t. But that’s entertainment for you. We have to admit that these shows are addictive and fun to watch. I didn’t watch this years series but I watched last years and I genuinely enjoyed it. These shows are great for entertainment, just don’t be one of those people that can’t disconnect reality TV and real life simply because Kem and Amber are still ‘together’.

How many more times?

After the attack in America last week. A mass shooting, killing dozens of innocent people. I had so many thoughts. So many thoughts about how people react to situations like these. It’s obvious that we need to think about the victims and others effected. But I have a few questions that I’d like to challenge concerning this whole affair whilst it’s still current.

I watched an interview where a woman had actually witnessed the attack. She said that we need to focus on people’s mental health problems to stop these attacks from happening. She was right. However when questioned about gun control in America, she was quick to be defensive and point out that she wasn’t a ‘politician’. She said that individuals are to blame for attacks like this instead of guns. Which made me think, everyone is so stubborn and caught up in these silly debates. People are worrying about what label they will get given instead of tackling the problem head on. In this instance, she was opposed to the thought of being labelled as a politician. Maybe things aren’t as black and white as we think. Maybe we need to tackle both sides of the problem. Mental health problems need to be tackled, yes. It is also very clear that the law concerning guns in America also needs to be re assessed. America has had so many mass shootings because guns are so easily available for people to  legally buy. It’s not a matter of which problem needs to be sorted. We need to look at the bigger picture. Sorting out only one of the two problems is like plugging your phone in to charge it without turning the switch on. It simply won’t do it’s job.

I also thought about the way that the media portrayed the murderer to be ‘Grandad’ or ‘lone wolf’ instead of simply just a ‘mass murderer’. It seems wrong that when a Asian, Muslim man has done something similar in support of extremism, there seems to be a whole different narrative that is sent out to the public. The acts of this mass murderer aren’t any less deviant than any other terrorist. So I wondered why the mainstream media almost sympathised with the man by saying that he’s never committed a crime before or that he was a Grandfather. They also jumped to the conclusion that he might have had mental health problems. Likely. But when similar Asian, Muslim suicide bombers kill others in the name of what they call their ‘religion’, the media don’t mention anything about that individuals mental health problems. They don’t mention their family or lack of previous criminal activity. They’re just named as ‘evil’. White American men are a bigger domestic terrorist threat than Muslim foreigners, perusing more attacks (And that’s a fact, there are statistics so support it) . Can we not just admit that Asian, Muslim and White men are all able to have mental health problems, they are all able too kill maliciously? And more importantly, they need help.

And finally, you hear people say “another attack” or “pray for _____” so many times. Too many times. Attacks like these seem to be normal now and it’s not right. We are so used to seeing terrorist attacks happen in Western society and it doesn’t make any sense. It’s clear that something needs to change. The government, people in power need to change laws and crack down on this wave of terrorism. Gun laws in America. The freedom of use on the internet. Everything needs to be analysed. We’re tired of praying for the world.

As for the title of this post. How many more times do terrorist attacks need to happen before they are normalised? How many more times will people get murdered by white men with guns before the media realise that not only Muslim extremists are a threat to society? How many more times do people need to get killed by guns before the laws in America change?

A Short Summary of the Colorism in the Media

I always feel that people will be reading my posts which are similar to this and be thinking, “Wow, he’s brave for speaking about this topic” or something along those lines. And when you think about it, it’s kind of true. But, i’m not writing about nonsense. What I’m writing about, isn’t just me waffling on about rubbish. Let’s be open minded.

Colorism sounds like a silly little thing. Unfortunately not. It’s a big problem in society that most are blind to. Colorism has certainly effected me in my short lifetime so far. I was unaware of it too. Problems like this tend to effect people without them even noticing it.

So, what  is colorism? Colorism is a form of prejudice or discrimination in which people are treated differently based on skin tone or shade. Racism is a different mater so let’s not get the two confused. It’s definitely not about disliking black people. A lot of it is actually about black people discriminating against other black people.

I think that today in 2017, colorism is demonstrated the most in the media so that’s what I’m going to talk about. The media influences the ways that we think about each other. Whether that be about race, gender or religion.

In the matter of colorism, I think that it’s fair to say that people of colour are increasingly being represented more in the media which is great. However, the majority of coloured people being used in advertisement are light skinned. They might be black, but they’re of a lighter shade compared to the average black person. It happens a lot in modelling for be clothes or makeup.

The message that the media sends to us is that, us dark skinned kids aren’t pretty enough to be the face of a clothing line or makeup brand. The light skinned kids are the pretty ones.

Representation of darker skinned black women is getting better with examples of Beyoncé’s Ivy Park collection and Rihanna’s Fenty Beauty release. Both include models from all shades and colours from white to black, Asian to European and so on. But let’s not be dependant on black businesswomen to include a fair representation of coloured people in advertisement. Especially those who’s profession is to actually sing. We need representation to happen across the board

As a summary, colorism basically makes dark skinned people feel alienated and not worthy and the media fuels this ideology massively.

Beyoncé, the conscientious social activist.

Let’s put it out there, I’m a huge Beyoncé fan. However, her music is only a small factor as to why I am in awe of her. Of course, I was initially gripped by her music but that’s not a good enough reason to really respect her for who she is. An artist can make amazing music but still be a complete idiot. Chris Brown, Miley Cyrus and Azalea Banks are only a few examples. Even, Ed Sheeran has had his moments.

Beyoncé is a hard working independent woman who is always actively reaching out for equality. Mrs Carter is a true feminist and she has proven that to us by making songs like ‘If I Were A Boy’ and ‘Flawless’. She was a supporter of the Women’s March back in January and is an organiser for the Chime For Change campaign.

Other charity work includes her BeyGood organisation. This month, Beyoncé has demonstrated how she can raise money through this organisation for those effected by the hurricane in her home town, Houston. This is on top of donating a mass amount of money herself. Beyoncé simply has a heart of gold and does so much for the black community too.

Lemonade was a whole visual album that helped appreciate black women’s beauty, talent and achievements. Black excellence was shown throughout the whole of the visuals incorporated in the album film. In her Ivy Park clothing collection, she includes women and men of many ethnic minority backgrounds and which sends an inclusive message to all.

Beyoncé also openly supports the LGBT community. I’m not sure that I know of any other artist that is determined to make an overall social change as much as her. As well as being a social activist that uses her power and status to channel her messages. Beyoncé is hard working. Someone that I feel all young women should look up to. The way in which she has carried herself throughout her 20 year old career has been magnificent. From managing herself, to now owning her own entertainment company, Parkwood Entertainment. The work ethic of Beyoncé is something that is rare in the music industry today.

Whilst having so many great personality traits, Beyoncé really is a legend. Not many artists can say that they have 6 solo platinum albums, 22 Grammy’s and a net worth of $350M. Beyoncé is a perfectionist and arguable the best performer of all time. Consequently, that is why I love Beyoncé.

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When you walk into a room, do you bring light or darkness? (Part 2)

A few weeks ago, I wrote a post about this topic. This is part two. However, before you read this, please read part one here.

Assuming that you’ve read part one, I spoke about how we shouldn’t worry too much about what others think about us. However, at the same time, we should maybe reflect on what energy we might bring into a room with us.

After going back to sixth form just a week and a half ago, it made me think about this again. On the first few days back at school, it’s clear that everyone wants to make a good impression to other students and teachers. They make an effort into the way they look, the way they dress etc. We’re all guilty for it in some way or another. I think it’s nice to see people do this. It shows that they care. They want to make an effort.

Did everyone bring light into school? Yes, the majority did. But for those people that you don’t automatically ‘warm to’. Maybe, they find it difficult to be open and make conversation with others. I mean… I think that I could be one of those people myself. Sometimes, I’m actually really shy. Believe it or not, I am. Especially when meeting new people. I’m the type to sit back and gather as much information about someone by watching them (not in a creepy way) rather than just ask them simple questions to get to know them. I’m clearly wrong for doing this but it comes back to the fact that everyone is different. Introvert or extrovert, none us are the same.

If there’s anything that I want people to take from this post, it would be to avoid judging people that you’ve never met before. As difficult as it may be, you never know what the person sat in front might be thinking of you.