I’ve been busy.

Apologies for not posting last week. I’ve been busy.

My message for this blog post is that you can do anything if put your mind to it. The post is going to be pretty self-centred so I’d stop reading from here if you’re not a fan of me, myself and I. However, I will also go on to talk about International Men’s Day.

Anyways, over this past two weeks, I’ve passed my driving test, applied to university, began hurdling at training and many other things. Not to be overconfident and annoying, but I’ve done all of this by staying consistent in staying focused and getting things done as and when they need to be done. I’ve set so many goals for myself since the academic year has began and I’m happy to say that so many things are finally coming together.

I would say that all of the things written in this blog post sort of links to my ‘Goals‘ post that I wrote a few weeks ago. I stressed the importance of having goals and gave advice on keeping a healthy mindset about them. I would advise reading it 🙂 (yes, that was me giving myself some self-promo). Being able to say that you’ve achieve a goal is so satisfying no matter how big or small the goal is. Therefore, I wouldn’t see any reason for me to stop setting myself goals.

I also woke up this morning to see that today is International Men’s Day. After seeing a few tweets, many men were taking this day to not only praise and appreciate the good men in this world but also reflect on how men could improve. Especially in this moment in time where feminism is growing and where toxic, hyper–masculinity is being challenged. (A blog topic that I look forward to writing about in the future). I think that some of the top tweets that I have seen are spreading awareness about men’s mental health so if you’re a male reading this, maybe you should join in with the conversation using the hashtag #InternationalMensDay.

That’s all for today’s post. Thanks to everyone reading 🙂

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Boys cry too

“Be a man and stop being like a little girl.”

What does that even mean?

The majority of men reading this would have heard these words being directed towards them at some point in their life. This is because society has created the obscure ideology that men simply don't have emotions. We say that men shouldn't cry and that men should be mentally stronger than women. But is there any logic in this?

Not only is language like "don't be such a girl" patronising for men, but it's also derogatory towards women. It communicates the message that it is a negative thing to be a woman. This is highlighted in the well-known Always' #LikeAGirl advert.

“I don't cry, I'm a boy" says the 10 year old boy that has been a target of gender stereotypes all of his life without even knowing it. 

Masculinity is so fragile.

It baffles me as to why men aren't seen as emotional beings like women. To top this, several studies have concluded that men are actually more emotional than women. So, the only reason why men aren't seen as emotional, has to be because society has taught them (us) to hide those emotions. We are fools for making men feel as though their feelings aren't important and that they should be hidden away.

Gender stereotypes aren't beneficial in this case scenario. Anybody who says that men shouldn't cry doesn't make any sense. I bet you didn't know that men are almost 4 times more likely to commit suicide than women. Those masculine, powerful and robust men chose to hide their tears away in fear that they wouldn't be taken seriously. Can you blame them though?

Are we killing our men? Yeah, maybe.