How many more times?

After the attack in America last week. A mass shooting, killing dozens of innocent people. I had so many thoughts. So many thoughts about how people react to situations like these. It’s obvious that we need to think about the victims and others effected. But I have a few questions that I’d like to challenge concerning this whole affair whilst it’s still current.

I watched an interview where a woman had actually witnessed the attack. She said that we need to focus on people’s mental health problems to stop these attacks from happening. She was right. However when questioned about gun control in America, she was quick to be defensive and point out that she wasn’t a ‘politician’. She said that individuals are to blame for attacks like this instead of guns. Which made me think, everyone is so stubborn and caught up in these silly debates. People are worrying about what label they will get given instead of tackling the problem head on. In this instance, she was opposed to the thought of being labelled as a politician. Maybe things aren’t as black and white as we think. Maybe we need to tackle both sides of the problem. Mental health problems need to be tackled, yes. It is also very clear that the law concerning guns in America also needs to be re assessed. America has had so many mass shootings because guns are so easily available for people to  legally buy. It’s not a matter of which problem needs to be sorted. We need to look at the bigger picture. Sorting out only one of the two problems is like plugging your phone in to charge it without turning the switch on. It simply won’t do it’s job.

I also thought about the way that the media portrayed the murderer to be ‘Grandad’ or ‘lone wolf’ instead of simply just a ‘mass murderer’. It seems wrong that when a Asian, Muslim man has done something similar in support of extremism, there seems to be a whole different narrative that is sent out to the public. The acts of this mass murderer aren’t any less deviant than any other terrorist. So I wondered why the mainstream media almost sympathised with the man by saying that he’s never committed a crime before or that he was a Grandfather. They also jumped to the conclusion that he might have had mental health problems. Likely. But when similar Asian, Muslim suicide bombers kill others in the name of what they call their ‘religion’, the media don’t mention anything about that individuals mental health problems. They don’t mention their family or lack of previous criminal activity. They’re just named as ‘evil’. White American men are a bigger domestic terrorist threat than Muslim foreigners, perusing more attacks (And that’s a fact, there are statistics so support it) . Can we not just admit that Asian, Muslim and White men are all able to have mental health problems, they are all able too kill maliciously? And more importantly, they need help.

And finally, you hear people say “another attack” or “pray for _____” so many times. Too many times. Attacks like these seem to be normal now and it’s not right. We are so used to seeing terrorist attacks happen in Western society and it doesn’t make any sense. It’s clear that something needs to change. The government, people in power need to change laws and crack down on this wave of terrorism. Gun laws in America. The freedom of use on the internet. Everything needs to be analysed. We’re tired of praying for the world.

As for the title of this post. How many more times do terrorist attacks need to happen before they are normalised? How many more times will people get murdered by white men with guns before the media realise that not only Muslim extremists are a threat to society? How many more times do people need to get killed by guns before the laws in America change?

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A Short Summary of the Colorism in the Media

I always feel that people will be reading my posts which are similar to this and be thinking, “Wow, he’s brave for speaking about this topic” or something along those lines. And when you think about it, it’s kind of true. But, i’m not writing about nonsense. What I’m writing about, isn’t just me waffling on about rubbish. Let’s be open minded.

Colorism sounds like a silly little thing. Unfortunately not. It’s a big problem in society that most are blind to. Colorism has certainly effected me in my short lifetime so far. I was unaware of it too. Problems like this tend to effect people without them even noticing it.

So, what  is colorism? Colorism is a form of prejudice or discrimination in which people are treated differently based on skin tone or shade. Racism is a different mater so let’s not get the two confused. It’s definitely not about disliking black people. A lot of it is actually about black people discriminating against other black people.

I think that today in 2017, colorism is demonstrated the most in the media so that’s what I’m going to talk about. The media influences the ways that we think about each other. Whether that be about race, gender or religion.

In the matter of colorism, I think that it’s fair to say that people of colour are increasingly being represented more in the media which is great. However, the majority of coloured people being used in advertisement are light skinned. They might be black, but they’re of a lighter shade compared to the average black person. It happens a lot in modelling for be clothes or makeup.

The message that the media sends to us is that, us dark skinned kids aren’t pretty enough to be the face of a clothing line or makeup brand. The light skinned kids are the pretty ones.

Representation of darker skinned black women is getting better with examples of Beyoncé’s Ivy Park collection and Rihanna’s Fenty Beauty release. Both include models from all shades and colours from white to black, Asian to European and so on. But let’s not be dependant on black businesswomen to include a fair representation of coloured people in advertisement. Especially those who’s profession is to actually sing. We need representation to happen across the board

As a summary, colorism basically makes dark skinned people feel alienated and not worthy and the media fuels this ideology massively.

Beyoncé, the conscientious social activist.

Let’s put it out there, I’m a huge Beyoncé fan. However, her music is only a small factor as to why I am in awe of her. Of course, I was initially gripped by her music but that’s not a good enough reason to really respect her for who she is. An artist can make amazing music but still be a complete idiot. Chris Brown, Miley Cyrus and Azalea Banks are only a few examples. Even, Ed Sheeran has had his moments.

Beyoncé is a hard working independent woman who is always actively reaching out for equality. Mrs Carter is a true feminist and she has proven that to us by making songs like ‘If I Were A Boy’ and ‘Flawless’. She was a supporter of the Women’s March back in January and is an organiser for the Chime For Change campaign.

Other charity work includes her BeyGood organisation. This month, Beyoncé has demonstrated how she can raise money through this organisation for those effected by the hurricane in her home town, Houston. This is on top of donating a mass amount of money herself. Beyoncé simply has a heart of gold and does so much for the black community too.

Lemonade was a whole visual album that helped appreciate black women’s beauty, talent and achievements. Black excellence was shown throughout the whole of the visuals incorporated in the album film. In her Ivy Park clothing collection, she includes women and men of many ethnic minority backgrounds and which sends an inclusive message to all.

Beyoncé also openly supports the LGBT community. I’m not sure that I know of any other artist that is determined to make an overall social change as much as her. As well as being a social activist that uses her power and status to channel her messages. Beyoncé is hard working. Someone that I feel all young women should look up to. The way in which she has carried herself throughout her 20 year old career has been magnificent. From managing herself, to now owning her own entertainment company, Parkwood Entertainment. The work ethic of Beyoncé is something that is rare in the music industry today.

Whilst having so many great personality traits, Beyoncé really is a legend. Not many artists can say that they have 6 solo platinum albums, 22 Grammy’s and a net worth of $350M. Beyoncé is a perfectionist and arguable the best performer of all time. Consequently, that is why I love Beyoncé.

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Understanding others

I’m just going to spill some thoughts on understanding others actions. This post has no planned direction by the way.

We often hear about underachieving children in working class areas, those people that have awful opinions on serious matters or those who make awfully wrong decisions at the worst times.

We know that everyone is different. However, we need to understand why everyone is different. I think that people struggle to understand the factors that influence other opinions, choice and actions in life. People’s opinions on matters will vary due to many different things such as life experiences. Think about the way that you have been brought up in your family. Your parents are likely to be your biggest influences in life along with your peers.

People often do the wrong things in life because of bad life experience or because of the information that their parents have drilled into them from a young age. That’s not to say that bad decisions and intolerable opinions are acceptable. We just need to challenge things at the root to avoid problems in the future. It’s all a learning curve.

We have to take into consideration people’s backgrounds, where they’ve grown up. Their struggles life, whether that be mental health, financial problems or living in society as a minority.

Being able to acknowledge wrong is easy. But being able to understand the reasons why is difficult. It’s a skill. Some people are too stuck in their ways and others too sympathetic. Everyone is different.

Be open minded. People change right? Never judge a person from one of their Facebook status’ in 2008. (well, unless they’re a Neo-Nazi)

Everything that you experience in life moulds you into the person that you are today.

(Don’t look into this post too deeply and miss the main message. Let’s take the worst case scenario, murder. I know that murder is unacceptable. I think that it’s interesting to find out the reasons why someone might have committed a murder and understand others without jumping to conclusions.)

Don’t Touch My Hair

Despite my love for Solange’s record ‘Don’t Touch My Hair’ , an angry but peaceful anthem along with her visual artistry of a music video, that’s not what this post is going to be about. Let’s talk about people feeling the need to touch afro hair and the problems the come with it.

Touching my hair for your own pleasure isn’t cool. I hope that this post helps to explain and justify my reasons for why this isn’t just black people overreacting. Personally, I take offence to people who ask to touch my hair (or touch it without my permission). This is not only because it’s annoying, but I also understand why it’s problematic.

Firstly, it’s simply rude, annoying and uncomfortable for me when someone asks to touch my hair. It’s abnormal. However, people seem to think that just because my hair is has a different texture theirs that it’s okay to touch it when it pleases them.

It seems that only a small amount of people seem to understand that touching my afro hair is actually an act of a racial microaggression. A subtle, non verbal action that communicates negative messages. I do understand that it’s rarely ever done with the intention to make us, feel uncomfortable, but it does. When it comes down to the microagression, touching our hair makes us feel ‘different’ and not ‘normal’. This makes sense because people say that our hair is ‘exotic’ and ‘unfamiliar’.

Society has created a phenomenon that wearing natural afro hair comes with labels of unprofessional and deviance. These are negative labels causing black people, especially women, to make the decision not to wear their natural afro hair. They’ll wear weaves etc instead (because of the negative connotation that come along with it) which isn’t fair.

The Eurocentric beauty standards also contribute to the microagression the majority have created an idea that you’re a “beautiful” woman if you have a thin nose, white/tanned skin, a slim body, light coloured eyes and STRAIGHT HAIR. Black people just don’t naturally fit into these categories. This is why it is difficult for us to let you touch out hair because you say it feels ‘different’.

Plus, if i’m honest, there’s nothing special about my hair. It might smell good, but that’s all. So please, don’t touch my hair.

Instagram: what’s behind the smile?

We’re bombarded with images of happiness on social media. But what’s behind the smile?

These days, everyone has an Instagram profile. A place for you to share images and videos with your friends, family and other followers. We all see those Instagram models with 100k+ followers. Their lives look great right? Well, probably not as great as you might think. An Instagram profile is almost like the media industry as a whole. The media (or person in this situation) will only show you what they want you to see. We’re all guilty for it. Just think about your Instagram feed. You’re only showing your followers elements of your life that you want them to see, and that’s perfectly fine. It’s not a bad thing.

However, we have to admit that our Instagram accounts aren’t a ‘fair’ representation of ourselves. Unfortunately that has caused 12 year old’s following these so called ‘Instagram models’ that they look up to. It leads them to staring to compare themselves to them which isn’t great for the good old ‘mental health’. It makes you feel unsuited to the rest, almost not good enough. When you’re young and naive, you have a much more of a narrow minded outlook on the world and this is why it happens.

People will always aspire to be like others without taking into consideration that things are never perfect for anybody. So, the next time you compare yourself to that Instagram model, top athlete or musician, just remember that it wasn’t too simple for Oprah to become a billionaire.

Feel free to follow me on Instagram here and criticise me for my bad representation on Instagram.

(This one was just a short one. Nothing too deep, just a few thoughts that I thought would be good to write about.)

Are you a feminist?

“Feminist. the person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes.”

You might have heard those words in Beyoncé’s hit song ‘Flawless’. Feminism is a pretty simple concept but for an unclear reason, so many people aren’t able to grasp the importance of it. To make it clear, feminism isn’t the battle between men and women. Nor is it the mission to make women superior to men. To break it down, a feminist is someone who believes that men and women should be able to have equal rights when it comes to everyday life. Political power and equal pay is just a small part of it.

Before, I go into too much detail, you have to be able to accept that men are way more privileged in society compared to women. We have more male leaders and men are constantly getting paid more then women. All you have to do is look at the recent headlines stating that men working for the BBC are getting paid way more than women in most instances. We have to recognise that women aren’t given as many opportunities to excel financially or gain political power too.

The government is the organisation that essentially runs our country. But when you take a step back, you will realise that the government is predominately run by white men. Only 208 women MP’s were elected at the 2017 General Election which only equates to 32% of MP’s overall. But if these people are representing our country then how does this make sense? Is it representative? Should it be 50% men and 50% women? Those are questions that you can only answer for yourself. Similarly, only 8% of MP’s in the House of Common are from an ethnic minority background. But that’s another issue in itself which could have it’s own blog post.

You might argue that Theresa May is the current Prime Minister. You’re right, but let’s not forget that she is only the second female Prime Minister in the history of seventy six UK leaders.

There are many other issues when it comes to women’s equality. All you have to do is google them. Keep an open mind and read explanations for things instead of bashing feminism without any real knowledge of it. You might realise that being a feminist includes being able to believe in the equality for all women. That includes, black women, Muslim women and trans women. They all have the same struggles as well as having the struggles of being a minority in society too. Make sure you keep that in mind.

Feminism has come a long way over the years, from women not being allowed to attend school to women being able to take part in the general election votes. Its crazy to think that the women in our own families weren’t allowed to vote in the early 1900’s. So, are you a feminist? If you’re not a feminist then you need to ask yourself why. Is it because you don’t believe in gender equality or is it because you’re worried about the labels that may come with it.

It’s simple, if you think that women should have the same rights as men, then you’re basically a feminist, pal.